Posted on Thursday, July 23rd, 2009 by pelf and filed in Personal Stuff

I have been busy. It’s awfully obvious, isn’t it? :)

Truth be told, the second third of the year hasn’t been very smooth-sailing for me. In fact, it has been difficult at work, and I have to put in so much more effort to remain calm and patient at all times, regardless of the kind of shit that I have been dealt with.

The saddest thing is that a lot of the things that have happened to me recently are not bloggable. Gone are those days when I could write everything on my blog, unfortunately. These days, I just suck-it-in, put on a brave face and smile. Which, I think, helped me move forward, rather than allowing me to grief over matters that I have no control over :)

For the record, I was never an aggressive person to begin with. I never fought back when scolded or corrected. Fighting back wasn’t tolerated at home when I was younger, so I guess that was how I learned to be patient with a lot of things and people and matters. My friends would agree that I only participated in “cold wars” in school, not your kind of “bitch fights” where hair-pulling and name-calling were involved. My lecturers and supervisors in university would agree that I was always the “OK, this can be done” and “OK, no problem” kind of person.

So I guess that was why I seemed to be somebody you can dismiss very easily. Because I don’t fight back. That was why I was an easy target of your bad-mouthing. Because I don’t fight back. You can go ahead and tell all your colleagues and students and friends shit about me because I will not fight back. My Mum has taught me not to stoop that low.

And, like they say, “What goes around, comes around.” And I sure hope to still be alive when that day arrives, LOL.

  1. Grace says:

    It’s not all smooth-sailing for me as well but I’m coping and I’m sure you’ll pass this phase too. :)

    • pelf says:

      Yeah, I kinda picked that up from your blog too. But you’re doing such a great job blogging about it without actually blogging about it. That’s an art I have yet to master.

  2. Franklin says:

    Some battles are not worth the energy required to fight back. Mature people know this :)
    Yep, Karma will always come back and bite people in the rear. I hope whoever you are talking about gets theirs :)

  3. Be brave during hard times. =)

    Success is failure turned inside out.
    The silver tint of the clouds of doubt, and when you never can tell how close you are.

    It may be near when it seems a far; so stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit.
    It’s when things seem worst, you must not quit.

    From Prav’s World…

  4. John Hunter says:

    It may be frustrating but I think you are better off. Fighting back often just brings you down to others bad behavior. That doesn’t mean you have to just accept bad behavior but I don’t think fighting back is the answer. There are plenty of frustrations but staying true to honorable behavior is the right course.

  5. I’m pretty passive, and I am patient, and extremely reasonable. I have avoided pretty nasty situations, and I’ve diffused quite a few others. But just the same I do not believe in waiting for karma, or the Gods to take care of things if I am wronged in a bad way.

    I avoid fights as best as I can, but if you are really looking for a fight, then you will find it.. I will do my best to make sure you lose, and that you lose hard.

    Find the middle ground Pelf, don’t be a war monger and overreact over any little thing, but don’t be a doormat taking abuse and waiting for “earth to come around”, cause it usually doesn’t. Mom and Dad should of shown you that their is a fine line to taking sh*t from other people.

    • pelf says:

      That’s the hardest part, Angel, finding the middle ground. Because there are situations in life where there are no middle grounds, LOL. In this case, it is either I fight back, or I don’t.

      But of course, I also believe that the time may come for me to kick some rears, LOL.

      • Let me rephrase that middle ground statement. I don’t mean find the middle ground in every single situation. Determine the type of the situation it is, if there are only two options, weigh the factors at hand, and if needed, then rip some eyeballs and testicles off.

        I meant don’t fight everytime for everything. If you have to choose out of 2 options, and you let it slide before by choosing the high ground, very well. Now if they are still abusing, well, then try option 2.

        Sometimes people particularly prey on whom they feel is weak, and what better indicator of weakness than showing prior weakness? However once that perception is broken, then you can destroy their morale, and more oft than not, the enemy will move on.

  6. In summary, I fight back, and I fight back hard. I will destroy the enemy. Lol….

  7. Nicole Price says:

    We can learn a lot from people like Nelson Mandela and M Gandhi.

    • You are right Nicole. However, these principles cannot always be applied. Those 2 are exceptional figures, and had exceptional results. But in the practical world, that’s not gonna work.

  8. Franklin says:

    You are not missing anything on my blog, my friend :) Mostly it is just junk and then paid posts LOL
    Hang in there! Maybe this person will go find someplace else to stir things up at :)

  9. silveraven says:

    heya pelf…

    all i can say is: hang in there…and all the best…

  10. Ah Hong says:

    Hi Pelf,

    Got your e-mail about the turtle, it really sad to know the truth on what happens to them :(

    It’s time to create more awareness among the people (gotta blog on this) and big company like Petronas should held more CSR (Corporate Social Responsibility) campaign to protect the living creature in the sea and not just digging oil :(

    Be strong…I can’t understand why there’s people love to fight and create war. Can’t we just live in peace?

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